Some ideas on turning 41!
The previous couple of years I’ve written letters about Turning 39 and Turning 40. Each years felt very important and a giant turning level within the age spectrum.
At this time I’m turning boring #41.
Final night time buddies and I went to King Household Vineyards for trivia. It was a blast! My birthday want right now is to chill out at house, go to my favourite exercise class, and luxuriate in a straightforward dinner at house with the boys. Tomorrow Thomas and I’ve a giant night time out in town.
It’s been a busy few weeks celebrating a number of Libras and Scorpios!
Some issues I’ve seen in my 40s up to now:
I nonetheless really feel like a younger grownup
I might say my mind feels prefer it’s within the 33-34 age vary. And to suppose that was virtually a decade in the past.
The time I really feel most like a 40 12 months outdated is after we play groups of 20 12 months olds on the soccer discipline. Geez they’re fast! Our staff’s common age is someplace within the higher 30s to decrease 40s, and we’re consistently joking about needing to retire from the primary league that has too many 20 12 months olds working round.
My physique is slowing down
Talking of working round, I’m not the quickest, quickest, strongest model of myself. I really feel like upon hitting 40 my mindset modified from “push your self as exhausting as you possibly can!” to “DON’T GET HURT!” In my gymnasium lessons I’m going at 90% as a substitute of 100% as a result of I really worry if I went at 100 I might break or tear one thing. I’m nonetheless coping with a shoulder challenge that may plague me ceaselessly, however I’ve realized easy methods to handle it.
Truthfully I’m so grateful that I’m able to be energetic. From my foot points throughout my faculty years, I do know what it looks like not to have the ability to transfer your physique, and I’m so grateful I’m able to transfer mine how I need. Some days that’s strolling to and from the preschool twice and that’s what feels actually good. Different days it’s a 2 hour soccer sport after which a couple of days of relaxation afterwards. Relaxation is now a requirement.
Regardless of my physique slowing down a bit, I’m my most assured self on the gymnasium. Health has at all times been a approach for me to blow off steam, join with others, and destress, and I at all times really feel blissful in my group ex lessons. This publish comes up loads in dialog with different girls my age.
Most girls I speak to about physique picture say that their power and skill is extra essential than appears. Most individuals aren’t prepared to sacrifice life to look a sure approach. I believe that is each knowledge that comes with age and acceptance of what’s.
Nothing is as essential as sleep
I noticed this humorous meme not too long ago from Emily Freeman about sleep in your 20s, 30s, and 40s:
Final weekend was packed 3 sporting occasions and three birthday events. We occasion hopped each Saturday and Sunday from one to the opposite. And each days as we have been driving house at 5pm to placed on sweatpants, prepare dinner or eat leftovers, and have a quiet night time in, Thomas and I remarked that we really beloved having daytime occasions and comfortable evenings in. “We’re daytime folks” he mentioned. You couldn’t pay me to remain out previous midnight today! (Truly we’re going to a live performance tomorrow night time and can most likely be out till 11 and I’ll want all day Saturday to relaxation, haha.)
Life is difficult
Like a nice wine, there are layers upon layers to our lives. I’m consistently combating for simplicity whereas additionally accepting that with a husband, two children, and a home to handle, nothing will ever be easy. Whereas techniques (like these I educate in my Digital Litter program) assist to maintain me organized with all the adulting duties, after I get overwhelmed with all there’s to do time smart, I’ve to remind myself to zoom out loads and bear in mind what actually issues. Individuals matter. Well being issues.
This 12 months hasn’t been a straightforward one for us. Between the stress of our renovation (logistics, shifting twice and managing the funds of all of it), after which some unhappy and complex household dynamics that I can’t share on-line, there was loads happening backstage. We have now tried exhausting to assist those that want assist and do the best factor even when we’ve been wronged. There are query marks that I want have been commas.
Regardless of the above paragraphs, after I zoom out and look down at this life from a birds eye view, issues are good. Being again in our home has exceeded all expectations, and on a day-to-day degree issues are nice.
What’s subsequent?
Subsequent weekend: we’ve a enjoyable Friday night time out deliberate with buddies (the boys are going to do a sleepover with their grandparents!) after which a fifth celebration for Birch on his massive day. Spoiler alert: it’s Star Wars themed 😉
Subsequent month: we’re internet hosting Thanksgiving in our new home!
Subsequent 12 months: we’ve not one however two tropical holidays deliberate! One simply Thomas and me and one with the youngsters. I booked each journeys 100% on bank card factors and am engaged on an e-book coaching for getting began with free journey. (Somebody please reward me time for my birthday so I can end it!)
Thanks for approaching this journey of life with me one other 12 months,
xx,
Kath
Cake at 39
